Special thanks to derekcheyyim for the suggestion for today’s post 🙂
“Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being shared” ~ The Buddha
Among all the helpful emotions developed on the Buddhist path, love is perhaps one of the most important.
It helps to ensure that a person’s spiritual life is based on healthy and open relationships with the people around them, and with other forms of life.
It also creates the right inner conditions for the heart to relax and be at peace.
It is usually easy to have kind and loving feels towards those people that we love – our friends and family. Focusing on developing those feelings towards the people you care about is an important basis for developing a loving kindness practice.
The stronger the foundation of our loving-kindness practice is, the easier it is to expand our loving-kindness practice to those people towards whom we would not normally feel kindness. The ultimate goal in developing a loving-kindness practice is to feel the same level of goodwill, love, friendliness, and acceptance towards everyone – friends and strangers alike.
The sense of “self” and “other” will fall away, and be replaced by an extensive feeling of open heartedness.
Here are some of my favourite tips for strengthening loving-kindness:
- Practice loving=kindness meditation. Here is a great resource to find out more
- Be a good listener. Listen fully and openly without thinking about what you are going to say next, or trying to offer advice or a solution
- Smile at everyone
- Practice random acts of kindness (RAOK’s)
- Cook a meal for family of friends
- Call or visit someone who is sick
- Tell someone you appreciate them
- Pass on feedback if you receive good customer service – let the person’s manager know
- Be generous with compliments
- Be positive
- Share inspirational quotes
- Be grateful for what you have
- Treat everyone equally and with respect
And my favourite:
- Act on feelings of warmth and compassion. Don’t be afraid to express feelings of kindness and goodwill.
I am really excited about developing my own loving-kindness practice.
I have only recently started focusing on it intensively, and practising loving kindness-meditation as well. However I can already feel a huge difference.
A real sense of an opening and softening of my heart, and a very deep desire to help people, and to ease their suffering.
It’s such a beautiful feeling ♥
May you be happy
May you be safe
May you be healthy
May you be peaceful