In recent times I have tried to change my attitude towards events in my life that would have previously made me very stressed and tense.
It’s taken me a long time, but I’ve finally come to accept that things that happen are neither good or bad, they just “are”.
By attaching a “this is a catastrophe” label, I am only increasing the stress and suffering for myself.
The first time I really noticed the shift in my attitude was about 12 months ago.
Every 12 months I have to go into the hospital to have test and biopsies done.
This used to cause me enormous stress. I would become increasingly anxious for days leading up to it. I would stop eating, and sleeping. I would cry throughout the entire procedure. It left me feeling exhausted, physically and emotionally, for days afterwards.
Last year the hospital visit occurred 3 months after my marriage fell apart.
This time I was so focused on other things, and had so much on my mind, that the hospital visit barely even registered.
And I realised afterwards – the event itself was exactly the same. Day in hospital, biopsies, results, then home. However my attitude towards it was MUCH different.
I just did it.
And the stress to myself that time was non-existent.
The events in our lives are going to happen whether we attach extra suffering and layers to them, or simply approach them calmly. However the difference between these two options – to ourselves and our wellbeing – is huge.
Now I try not to attach labels, or levels, of “good”, “bad”, or “neutral” to life’s events.
I have a choice.
And I choice to be peaceful and happy.
And I am not going to allow events in my life – or rather my reaction to them – to take away from that happiness ♥
“Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.” ~ Haruki Murakami