The value of true friends

I’ve been having a little bit of a hard time lately with poor sleeping/nightmares etc so have been dragging myself through each day somewhat.

Regardless though of what is happening in my life, and how I am feeling, my friends always bring me the greatest joy.

I never for a moment take for granted the wonderful people in my life ♥

My friends cheer me up, make me smile, tell me the hard truths when I need it (and really you can’t put a value on that!).

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My friends are always there for me – to talk to, to vent to, to keep me company.

And something that I value more than I can say – I know that they have my back.  They believe me, they believe IN me, and they stand up for me.

I’ve never had the privilege of having friends that I call family, and I am blessed beyond belief ♥

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Everyday Wisdom #50

Every morning when I wake up, I dedicate myself to helping others to find peace of mind. Then, when I meet people, I think of them as long term friends; I don’t regard others as strangers.

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This is something I feel very passionately about.

I always approach all people with the attitude that they are just a friend that I haven’t met yet.

And I treat them with as much open heartedness, and kindness, and warmth as I can.

And I am very blessed that I frequently become “instant friends” with people.  

To me there are:

No boundaries

No division

No seperateness

We are all one, and we can all help each other.

 

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The importance of being earnest

I was lucky to have opportunity to “clear the air” with a friend of mine this morning.  

And it really made me realise how important open and honest communication is.  Not only in friendships, but in all our relationships.

Misunderstandings and miscommunications are common.  And in the grand scheme of things, they need not become significant.  However they can without open dialogue, and mindfulness and consideration.

In each new relationship we bring traces of our previous relationships.  Our experiences and our hurts.  Our “history”.

And these often cloud over our vision.

We can read quite simple situations with a veil of false understanding and expectation.

None of us are mind readers.  (Well some of us may be, but that’s a whole other blog post 😉 )

Communication can only help in strengthening our relationships.

After all, if a friendship is worth forming, then it must be worth maintaining and caring for.

Address differences as they arise.  And if an issue does arise, then approach it with calmness and a genuine resolve and desire to work through things.  To listen to the other person’s story without making judgements or trying to defend yourself.  Be open and willing to communicate.

Chances are they may be hurting as much as you are.  Even when that hurt is displayed as anger.  After all, anger is an emotion used when we feeling vulnerable and are trying to protect ourselves from hurt.

Friendships are a separate entity that require as much love and care as we do.  

Sometimes you may find the other person is not willing to meet your open-heartedness.  At the very least though, your openness and attempt to resolve the issue with communication has softened the situation.  And you don’t know what that might lead to in the future.

It leaves the door open…

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