I was lucky to have opportunity to “clear the air” with a friend of mine this morning.
And it really made me realise how important open and honest communication is. Not only in friendships, but in all our relationships.
Misunderstandings and miscommunications are common. And in the grand scheme of things, they need not become significant. However they can without open dialogue, and mindfulness and consideration.
In each new relationship we bring traces of our previous relationships. Our experiences and our hurts. Our “history”.
And these often cloud over our vision.
We can read quite simple situations with a veil of false understanding and expectation.
None of us are mind readers. (Well some of us may be, but that’s a whole other blog post 😉 )
Communication can only help in strengthening our relationships.
After all, if a friendship is worth forming, then it must be worth maintaining and caring for.
Address differences as they arise. And if an issue does arise, then approach it with calmness and a genuine resolve and desire to work through things. To listen to the other person’s story without making judgements or trying to defend yourself. Be open and willing to communicate.
Chances are they may be hurting as much as you are. Even when that hurt is displayed as anger. After all, anger is an emotion used when we feeling vulnerable and are trying to protect ourselves from hurt.
Friendships are a separate entity that require as much love and care as we do.
Sometimes you may find the other person is not willing to meet your open-heartedness. At the very least though, your openness and attempt to resolve the issue with communication has softened the situation. And you don’t know what that might lead to in the future.
It leaves the door open…