Everyday Wisdom #90

We can try to control our future – by looking for security, and predictability, and routine.

We can strive to always be comfortable, and safe, and avoid change.

However the basic truth is that we can never avoid uncertainty.  We can never avoid pain and suffering.

What we can do is ‘train’ for it.

Through meditation, and practising metta (loving kindness), and by developing compassion and equanimity.

Through these practices we will find that elusive stability within ourselves.

We can make that choice.

To find that stability within ourselves.  Or to do as we have always done, and live in fear.

“Only to the extent that we expose ourselves over and over to annihilation can that which is indestructible in us be found.” 
― Pema Chödrön


Facing anger: practise compassion, patience and self-confidence
Facing attachment: look at the disadvantages and temporariness
Facing uncertainty: forgive yourself for being human
Facing fear: practise relaxation and mentally give away whatever is threatened to be taken
Facing greed: practise gratitude for what you have
Facing jealousy: practise rejoicing in others’ fortune
Facing pride: practise humility, equanimity and real self-confidence
Facing guilt: act instead of regret
Facing other’s pain: gather some courage and allow it to tear your heart open! Have compassion for their suffering and frustrations. Also have compassion for your own helplessness & frustrations.
Facing others’ cruelty or rudeness: remember they can only act that way because they suffer themselves.
Facing any negative emotion by myself or others: the quicker I can recognise my own negative emotional patterns, the better I will be able to avoid these actions myself

Courtesy of  Chung Tian Buddhist Temple