For me “no harsh speech” is relatively easy – in it’s simplest form anyway: swearing.
I stopped swearing a long time ago. Not that I ever did it a lot – only occasionally. However whenever I did swear, it always triggered the exact same reaction – laughter. Because everyone said it sounded so ridiculous to hear those words coming out of my mouth.
And it really didn’t suit me.
Once I became pregnant, it further reinforced my decision to refrain from swearing.
It just sounds so unpleasant – and there are so many other wonderful, beautiful, expressive words that we can use instead.
Although I am digressing a little….
In keeping with my “week of right speech”, today I was being extra mindful of harsh speech, and for me that was negative words – both speaking out loud, and via written words.
It’s something I have been working on lately – to REALLY think about what I am saying, and whether I could rephrase it.
Today in talking to my ex-husbands girlfriend (long story), I quickly re-typed a couple of words as I wrote the email. I was going to say that the weather lately (lots of rain) had been “frustrating”. I deleted that out though and replaced it with “challenging”.
When talking to a friend earlier, I was going to say that I was sick of walking to and from school in the rain. However I thought about that – and that didn’t really sum up how I felt. So I re-phrased it to say that the novelty was wearing off.
It’s a really interesting practice – because at first you do have to consciously think about which words you choose to use. And to change it from negative to positive (or at least neutral). However it soon becomes natural. And what we say influences how we feel. If we speak in positive terms, it changes our thoughts, and our mood as well.