How you speak to others is often reflected as an extension of how you are.
If you are frustrated, or feeling short-tempered, then your tone and words will often reflect this.
Before speaking, it can be very useful to just pause.
Pausing gives you a chance to relax. To scan your body, and release any tension. To take a deep breath. And to speak from a place of calm and peace.
It allows you to make a conscious decision as to what you want to say.
And all this can be done so quickly that the pause is almost imperceptible.
Sometimes you may need more time. Particularly if you are dealing with a sensitive issue.
And it can be useful to say honestly “let me think about that”.
To give yourself time to breathe, group and refocus.
And therefore give a wiser and more considered response.
Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret.