Everyday Wisdom #30

Be Grateful To Everybody

If we were to make a list of the people we don’t like-people we find obnoxious, threatening or worthy of contempt – we would find much about ourselves that we can’t face.

If we were to come up with one word about each of the troublemakers in our lives, we would find ourselves with a list of descriptions of our own rejected qualities. We project these on the outside world.

The people who repel us unwittingly show us aspects of ourselves that we find unacceptable, which otherwise we can’t see.

Traditional lojong teachings say it another way: other people trigger the karma we haven’t worked out.

They mirror us and give us a chance to befriend all of that ancient stuff we carry around like a backpack full of granite boulders.

“Be grateful to everyone” is a way of saying that we can learn from any situation, especially if we practice this slogan with awareness.

The people and situations in our lives can remind us to catch neurosis as neurosis-to see when we’ve pulled the shades, locked the door, and crawled under the covers.


Comfortable With Uncertainty
Pema Chodron 




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12 responses to “Everyday Wisdom #30

  1. One of your best posts yet! You have once again communicated what is at the heart of the commandment, love thy brother. I SOOO heart you!!

  2. Pema Chodron always gets it spot on – thanks for reminding us with this great quote. So true! Best wishes for a speedy recovery too (())

  3. Son

    Get well soon , Meg. I love your posts, ALL of them 🙂

  4. This is so true. I know to look within when I find myself irritated, angry, aggravated, or irate at another person or an event. Everything is a mirror and when we learn to look closely the whole universe is involved in the healing process.

    • That is really true Brenda. I spent a lot of time after I read this thinking of the people with whom I struggle at the moment. And it’s so true – those whom I feel strongly about are mirroring aspects of myself that I don’t like. It’s a fascinating study 🙂

  5. 🙂 You got it. This is why I hate no one.

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