I recently developed a habit of daily reflection.
Reflection on my life, and my practice – and the direction it is heading in.
Reflection of the events of the day, and what I would do differently if I could do it over again.
Reflection of my friendships and relationships, and areas where I could improve.
I try to use it as a learning tool. To help me to improve myself – to grow and gain wisdom.
I have learnt:
- Reflection helps us learn from our mistakes. Otherwise we are destined to repeat them over and over again.
- With reflection we can more clearly see all the things that are going right in our lives. And really enjoy and appreciate those things – instead of letting them slip by unnoticed and uncelebrated.
- Reflection helps us to gain perspective. That what we are stressing about is really not that big a deal in the grand scheme of things. Will we remember it when we are 90? If not, then it’s not worth stressing over.
- It assists us to keep an eye on our faults and hindrances and to keep them in check
Make time to reflect on your life – at least once per day.
This can be done whilst exercising – walking or running.
Or as part of writing in a journal at the end of the day. The added benefit to writing in a journal is that it records a personal learning journey, tracking and documenting an evolving understanding and wisdom.
If you are facing a difficult situation or event in your life, it can be helpful to consider the following:
- Describe the situation as objectively as possible (write it down)
- What are the assumptions that you are operating with?
- Is there another way to see this situation?
- What could you do differently?
- What can you do to create a change?
First, by reflection, which is noblest;
Second, by imitation, which is easiest;
and third by experience, which is the bitterest.