Everyday Wisdom #5

Constructive Criticism

It is possible to learn to ‘criticise well’, and it’s a skill that is well worth learning.

There is an art to giving useful, wise feedback, as opposed to being critical, and making people feel discouraged.

Firstly – and most importantly – is the person asking for your opinion/feedback?

If the answer is no, then it might be wise to consider whether offering it freely would actually be beneficial to them.

Secondly, consider your reasons for giving criticism – is it in an effort to help them improve?

And lastly...

How can you do it with kindness?

Take some time to consider how best to deliver your thoughts.

It is always beneficial to start with the positive – what they did well.  And say it honestly and simply.

Then follow with specific, positive suggestions.


Remember – be gentle, kind and considerate with your criticism.





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11 responses to “Everyday Wisdom #5

  1. Irmelinis

    Very nice advice!

  2. Oh I agree with you so much!

  3. My family and I have been using the “wise speech” criteria for several years and there have been wonderful changes in how we communicate with each other and with people out in the world, too. I put the words on photo pages and tape them up on the cupboard doors. I have them all around my classroom too, to remind myself, the kids and people who come in: one page of the forest floor http://reflectionsfromafriend.wordpress.com/2012/02/29/229-showing-more-kindness-and-patience-toward-oneself/ and one on a sky photo http://pocketperspectives.wordpress.com/2011/07/14/3120/ You have a very special blog with helpful insights and reminders.

    • Wow, thank you so VERY much for your comment and for reading my blog. I think this is a brilliant idea – to have visual reminders around as ‘mindfulness bells’. I look forward to reading more of yours. Much metta _/\_

  4. Fantastic advice! Really useful, as I’m just about to sit down to review and grade drafts of senior theses!!

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